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Tough Talk

Update 5/24 :  I spoke with the mom who is referenced in this story about what happened. She is a friend, and a lovely person, and I don’t fault her for this. Kids say what they say–my own included! My purpose in telling this story wasn’t to demonize anyone, but just to share another ALS experience.

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The little girl was asking me a question, but I couldn’t hear her over the noise of the playground. I leaned around Scarlett’s head and asked the girl–a 6-year-old who lives in our neighborhood–to repeat herself, but it took a few tries before her question was audible. When I could finally understand what she was saying–and she was speaking pretty loudly by that point–what I heard was “Does Scarlett know that you’re going to die soon?”

There are a lot of possible answers to that question, but the first thing that came out of my mouth was “Oh honey, I’m not going to die soon.”

She persisted. “My mom says that you’re going to die soon.”

“Well,” I said firmly. “I’m not.” And then I must have said something else, but I absolutely don’t know what it was, and suddenly we were wheeling off to another section of the park. Read More>

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Asking

Last week, Scarlett and I were out for lunch with some other family members, when she caught sight of a man who had prosthetic arms. Using the hooks on the ends, he deftly pulled a credit card out of his wallet and paid for his food. Scarlett stared. “Why does he have those?” she asked quietly.

I’ve faced a lot of curious looks since I got my walker, and now my wheelchair. Children will ask. Adults mostly do not. My least favorite times have been when I can hear a child ask their parent about me, and the parent shushes them or calls them nosy.

So my response to Scarlett was, “Ask him.” She did, and he told us that he was born without arms and uses his prosthetics to do everything he needs to do. Then he and I got into a discussion about asking. We both said we liked when kids asked. They’re curious, and we’re different. It’s ok. Read More>