Category Archives: Relationships

In the Spirit

“You have been my friend,” replied Charlotte. “That in itself is a tremendous thing. I wove my webs for you because I liked you. After all, what’s a life, anyway? We’re born, we live a little while, we die. A spider’s life can’t help being something of a mess, with all this trapping and eating flies. By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift up my life a trifle. Heaven knows anyone’s life can stand a little of that.”
—Charlotte’s Web by E.B. White

Scarlett and I read Charlotte’s Web together over the course of a few days. I wasn’t sure she’d be into it, but she loved the story of Wilbur, the runty baby pig who was rescued and bottle-fed by a little farm girl, and how he then met a spider who became his best friend and saved his life.

Scarlett was also very interested towards the end of the book, when I burst into tears while reading about Charlotte’s death. She curled up in my lap when it was over, and I could see her trying to squeeze out a few tears, too. But then she said, “I want to go look at the Christmas presents.” Read More>

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Speed4Sarah Fall Fundraiser

My baby brother Paul is six years younger than me. This is currently confusing, because although I still see him as a chubby adorable child, he happens to be 30 years old. This means that he is—and has been for some time—an adult (still adorable.) And that means that he can do things like support himself, be in a serious relationship, and band together with his good friends to set up a fundraiser on Speed4Sarah’s behalf, which he did the Friday night after Thanksgiving.

The idea, I believe, came from the girls. I’ve known the sweet Anna Biggins and her family for years, since back when she was a Schroeder and before she had two kids, little blond babies with the names of fairies. I asked her brother Eric to King of Hearts, our high school’s version of a Sadie Hawkins dance. Our moms are friends who used to teach together, and Anna’s mom has read every novel worth reading. She writes her name inside them before passing them on liberally. I like this fact. I wonder if the books always make it back home. I wonder if I’ve accidentally stolen any of them.

Anna is friends with Elyse Caringella, a pretty pixie who has written me emails that make me laugh, and who felt motivated to organize an entire event to raise money for ALS, despite never having met me. Read More>

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Gratitude

Happy Thanksgiving! In some ways, I feel like announcing what you’re thankful for today is like telling people that you love them only because it’s February 14. We should be thinking about what we’re grateful for on a daily basis. It’s a good exercise, and it tends to tone down the general frustration of your average, say, Tuesday, when you spill a bottle of water all over the floor, or you’re late getting out the door and your daughter learns the word fuck, or you realize that your pants are on backward. I mean you, not me. None of that stuff ever happened to me this week.

I know I’ve mentioned being grateful on this blog before. I’ve written about some of the specific people for whom I am thankful, and I’ve told them to their faces that they make my life better. Then after they told me I was freaking them out, I backed up a few inches and said it in a calmer voice. So, you know, they know how I feel. Read More>

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